10 lies black women tell themselves
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Website design By BotEap.comBelieve me, no one is stealing them. It is your choice to go outside of your career. And what if they are? Love is love and it comes in all colors, shapes, and sizes. Sisters should stop growling at Caucasian women who choose to be with black men. It’s 2010, and everyone should explore new things and consider the possibilities of finding love beyond the limits that we set ourselves. Instead of hating, maybe you should follow suit. Try something new, you might be surprised.
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Website design By BotEap.comI agree, it can be. But your natural, curly / curly locks are beautiful too. I have seen an overwhelming number of black women go against the grain and choose to be natural. For those who have not yet crossed, natural does not mean buckwheat. There are so many wonderful styles that you can achieve with your natural hair.
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Website design By BotEap.comI know it seems that way because the only ones that seem to be in your face are the crazy ones. But there are crazy men and women in all cultures. The good guys are those who are at work, at home, or doing good things. Get involved in some positive activities and you will be surprised who you run into.
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Website design By BotEap.comWe have all heard this “I have an Indian in my family.” It’s great to recognize that you are made up of different cultures and to have love for all of them, but nowadays, everyone is mixed with something. We are all made of many things, but I have seen some try to downplay their African roots. Black is really beautiful, and the way it blends in with others makes it even more so. Celebrate and exalt yourself.
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Website design By BotEap.comEverything light is not always right. Even today in 2010, some black women are still in that color bias deal. I have three words for you, “Get over it.” Black women are beautiful no matter what shade of brown we are. If you’ve been blessed with sun-tanned chocolate skin, love it and take good care of it. Not many other cultures in the world have individuals as beautiful and unique as you. And if you have a lighter finish, love yourself too, but don’t belittle or ridicule our darker brothers and sisters.
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Website design By BotEap.comFirst of all, there really is no such thing as acting or sounding white. Of course, most African Americans use it as a way to describe someone who speaks clear English, but not all Caucasians speak it correctly, as do those from other cultures that adopt certain dialects. There is nothing wrong with being a refined version of yourself, but some people feel the need to change character when they enter the world of work. Who can continue to act for more than 8 hours a day? Just be yourself.
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Website design By BotEap.comIf a man doesn’t love you, he doesn’t love you. It’s as simple as that. Having a baby with an irresponsible man will only make him run further, and if he has any shred of decency, he will be close to the boy, not you. Grow up.
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Website design By BotEap.comI wouldn’t keep a snapping turtle for long if it bit me too many times, so why would a woman allow a man to physically / verbally hit her just to say she has someone in her life? I know it’s been said before, but let me say it again, it’s better to be alone than with someone who doesn’t love you the way you deserve. Love yourself enough to go and fast.
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Website design By BotEap.comSad that I even had to put this on the list, but while watching BET (Yes, I should have known better) I heard something that annoyed me. I heard a rapper admit that to her fans she believed that it didn’t matter what she said as long as it looked good. And she was fine with it. What? I hope the girls have not heard or believed that ridiculous statement. It’s wonderful to want to be physically attractive, but if you’re an airhead, none of that matters. Sure, you can get a modeling job if you’re beautiful, but you also need to know how to navigate the industry and once you’ve passed a certain age, it’s all over for you. So what? Our young women need positive role models who care as much about presenting themselves as well as feeding their brains. It is possible to do both.
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Website design By BotEap.comYou are a queen. Do you need to be reminded? You were born to be great. Read your history if you are not convinced
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