Deciphering the female orgasm

Website design By BotEap.comThe best way for a woman to figure out her orgasm is by knowing her own body. Self pleasure (commonly called “masturbation”) is a way to find a deeper connection with your own life force energy, which is the power of creation that flows through all life. It can even be a spiritual practice when done with Presence, awe, and reverence. Through self-pleasure, a woman can learn to expand her awareness and capacity for Bliss.

Website design By BotEap.comPleasuring yourself gives you time to discover what turns you on without worrying about pleasing your partner. You have the opportunity to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and find new erogenous zones. I recommend pleasuring yourself several times this week. Take your time and connect deeply with yourself. Let your inner body-wisdom guide you. As you touch yourself, be present where the energy flows. Let your sessions be an adventure of self-discovery.

Website design By BotEap.comSee if any resistance arises around your own pleasure. If so, ask yourself these questions: What is my relationship to pleasure? Do I make time for it in my life? How often? Do I find reasons not to give myself pleasure? If you are in the habit of limiting the amount of pleasure in your life, explore the old beliefs you have about pleasure, sex, and masturbation. You may be harboring sexual shame or guilt. You may feel that spending time on yourself is wasteful or selfish. Now is a good time to reframe those beliefs by reframing them in ways that are positive for sex and pleasure.

Website design By BotEap.comOnce you’ve explored the nuances of pleasuring yourself and feel confident in your ability to orgasm, you may want to share this wisdom with your lover. Learning to share how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increases the likelihood that you will be touched in the way that most arouses and satisfies you. This requires an important communication skill, called “3-Part Communication”.

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Website design By BotEap.com1) Recognize the person for something they are doing well: “I love it when you return my caresses.” or “Thank you for being willing to spend this time with me.”

Website design By BotEap.com2) Ask for what you want: “What would feel even better right now is for you to touch me even more slowly.”

Website design By BotEap.com3) Appreciate and acknowledge the change: “Oh yeah. That feels so good! You’re doing great.” This style of communication will dramatically increase the likelihood that you will be touched in a way that pleases you and also makes your lover feel good.

Website design By BotEap.comAs you take personal responsibility for getting your wishes fulfilled, you’ll want to free yourself from old beliefs that no longer serve you, such as, “My lover’s job is to magically discover what turns me on.” These types of ideas lead to feelings of pain and/or disappointment. Instead, recognize that you are the generator of your orgasms. By learning what turns you on and asking for what feels good in the moment, you can expand your capacity for ecstasy.

Website design By BotEap.comLearning to decode your orgasm through self-pleasure practice and learning to express your sexual desires adds a whole new dimension to your lovemaking. It is a great way to increase self-awareness and expand your capacity for Bliss. You can also add juice to a new or ongoing sexual relationship. Enjoy!