How do you feel about yourself?

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Website design By BotEap.comFaith Shades did everything that was right, everything that society expected. She attended law school, was involved in news and television production, and was a high-producing real estate agent.
Suddenly one day a new perspective emerged on his life and what he really wanted.
Today, Faith is the founder of Eyes Cream Shades, quality sunwear for children.

Website design By BotEap.comDolores Arste was good at managing people and teams in the information technology field.
Suddenly, a new perspective for his life emerged and he took action.
Today, she provides holistic counselling, helping others deal with their own life changes.

Website design By BotEap.comMarcia Brixey worked for the government for 26 years. She had a responsible job and a career. Marcia had a great office, but inside she was miserable and unhappy. She also took the leap.
Today, Marcia is the founder of Money Wi$e Women, which helps women better manage their money.

Website design By BotEap.comIt begins with a deep look inside.

Website design By BotEap.comHow do you feel about yourself? Does your job enhance your sense of self or depress you? Have you thought about how your job might be affecting your health, your relationships, and your happiness?
Many people just put their work in one big compartment, as if to keep the rest of their life away from their work… I wish it were that simple.

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Website design By BotEap.comI was out for lunch the other day and noticed that a group of about 15 people from the same work group had gone for lunch. It was your typical work lunch where the boss talked most of the time and people went out of their way to act like they were having fun. In reality, they just wanted to run home, put on their pajamas, and get under the covers.
Have you ever felt like this?

Website design By BotEap.comstop looking for another job

Website design By BotEap.comInstead, create a life that honors who you are and your gifts to the world.
Write on a piece of paper: “How I feel about myself is ______________.”
Change the parts of your life that are no longer useful to you.

Website design By BotEap.comMany of us are prisoners of others; our bosses, our parents, our spouses and society about who we should be and the role we should play in life.
Just remember, you are the only one who can change the role in your own game of an act called life. It doesn’t come from thinking you should change or hoping for better luck.
It comes from creating the life that works well for you.

Website design By BotEap.comYour work is a central point of your life. Last week I met an executive whose company sold electronic parts. I asked him if he loved his work and all his travels. He said he didn’t really like it at all. His plan one day was to spend his time in the mountains doing something around his love of skiing.
He knew what the real problem was. She lived a life of big screen televisions, big trophy cars, and lots of toys. Actually, she couldn’t imagine giving up any of these in exchange for her dreams.

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Website design By BotEap.comSorry, but it’s the best example I can think of. Many of us do this. We rent our lives and our souls to the faceless work we do without hesitation.
And the result is that we feel worse about ourselves and who we are.
The path to a life of integrity is an open and honest review of who you are and what you want.

Website design By BotEap.comAre you a job title or a person?

Website design By BotEap.comWhen someone asks you what you do, how do you answer?
Do you answer with your job title or a description of who you are?
There are so many jobs out there and most of them wouldn’t get done unless people were paid to do them. After forty, it’s time to take a deeper look at doing soul-warming work; work that solves real problems in the world.

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Website design By BotEap.comOnly you can answer this question. Most jobs are created just to help an organization make a profit. If you can’t contribute to this mission, then the organization will find someone else, probably younger, who can.
After forty, you’re ready to drop these silly games with your life and find your calling: the work you’ll start doing and keep doing until you stop breathing.

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Website design By BotEap.comI am writing this article on my 50th birthday and frankly I couldn’t think of a better way to start the day. I plan to continue this work for the next 50 years because, in some way, I feel like it makes a difference in the world. And along the way it also helps me feel better about myself. Consider making these your goals as well.

Website design By BotEap.comHow do you feel about yourself?

Website design By BotEap.comOnly you can answer this question. Only you can begin to take steps to do something about the answers you don’t like. Start by examining your work.
This will be the hardest thing you will do in your life. But it will also be more satisfying when you look back on the second half of your life and realize that you ignored the status quo and followed your heart.

Website design By BotEap.comCraig Nathanson is the author of P Is For Perfect: Your Perfect Vocational Day and an expert in coaching who works with people over forty. Craig’s new eBook, Discover and Live Your Passion 365 Days a Year, is a workshop in a box designed to help busy adults go crazy with their work. Craig’s systematic approach, the trademarked “Ten P’s” process, helps people break free and move toward the work they love. Visit Craig’s online community at http://www.thevocationalcoach.com, where you can take a class, get more ideas through Craig Nathanson’s books and CDs, receive private coaching over the phone, or read other stories of change and renewal in midlife.

Website design By BotEap.comCraig lives in San Anselmo, California. You can reach him at 415-457-0550 or at [email protected].

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