Website design By BotEap.comHere we are beyond the threshold of a new year again, but How many of us have truly become “better people” with the clock striking 12? Why New Year’s Resolutions Rarely Last What can NLP contribute to make New Year’s resolutions last?
Website design By BotEap.comThe year will fly by fast. We’re back to ‘normal’, life goes on at full speed… But the January blues are always in the air all over the world to varying degrees. While the first week of January is the busiest week of the year for divorce attorneys in some counties, January 21 is officially the day the most people are depressed due to:
- holiday expenses
- lack of light
- unfulfilled or broken resolutions.
Website design By BotEap.com So why don’t New Year’s resolutions last?
Website design By BotEap.comHow do you think of a resolution?
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solve to do x.
Website design By BotEap.comsolve =
feeling = you are committed to doing something. But feelings are volatile = they change [and fast!] = commitments fall apart.
Website design By BotEap.comOur state of being is part of the story, but we also need strategies. For example, it symbolizes your commitment to a gym membership. But as soon as you don’t make time to go, you have an internal conflict of willpower. The strategy to follow is: delegate motivation by hiring a personal trainer. You have now created a structure that supports your intent. It’s there no matter how you feel = the trainer will keep coming to your house/gym no matter how many excuses you put in your head.
Website design By BotEap.comIf you want x = feeling.
Website design By BotEap.comDo you have the strategies to achieve it?
Website design By BotEap.comHave a goal that you can control.
- What does it mean to have x?
- What will having x do for you?
- And what will you see when you have it?
- And what will you hear when you have it?
- What will you feel when you have it?
- What will others see you do when you have it?
- And what will others hear you say when you have it?
- Can you start and keep doing/being it?
- When, where, with whom do you want it?
- When, where, with whom do you not want it?
- For how long?
- What do you get out of your current behavior that you want to keep?
- Is it worth the cost to you?
- Is it worth the time it will take?
- Does this fit with your sense of self?
Website design By BotEap.com If you have answers to those questions, you are imagining. Imagine = experience.
Website design By BotEap.comNow is the time to look:
Website design By BotEap.comHow does this contrast with the state you were in before? Now the old routine is becoming less focused. And as you begin to relax with the new imaginations, more relaxed = more focused.
Website design By BotEap.comConstruct a representation of the x you want to achieve.
Website design By BotEap.comWhat will its structure be? The structure can be a simple strategy that allows for incremental changes.
Website design By BotEap.comYour power comes from making decisions.
Website design By BotEap.comExample: food.
Website design By BotEap.comAre you choosing success by what you eat?
Website design By BotEap.comCould you make a decision that would put you in a positive direction?
Website design By BotEap.comIf the trend is your friend, what trend are you creating?
Website design By BotEap.comLittle things make a big difference in incremental steps over time.
Website design By BotEap.comAnother example: doing sport. The structure of your strategy is:
- What sports?
- How often?
- For how long?
Website design By BotEap.com Who are you [your identity] is associated with specific activities.
Website design By BotEap.comSo solve:
Website design By BotEap.com1. be specific
Website design By BotEap.comtwo. create a structure that will support you over time
Website design By BotEap.com3. create a structure that will support you in DIFFICULT moments
Website design By BotEap.comFour. How about collaboration? Could you collaborate with others to get what you want to get?
Website design By BotEap.comNLP for making new years resolutions last:
Website design By BotEap.comImagine it, experience it, listen to it, feel it, apply it to any context in your life.
Website design By BotEap.comHappy New Year and many more! If you want to start the new year with new strategies, inspiration and more NLP gifts, let’s talk about it. Or would February be a better time to start?
