Get Your Ex Back: Disappear After Breakup

Website design By BotEap.comSo, your relationship is over but you are still in love and you want to get your ex back. Actually, getting your ex back is all you can think about. The first thing to do is prepare for him or her to start dating someone else, if it hasn’t already happened. It hurts like nothing else can and the thought of him or her being with someone else is devastating to say the least, especially if you still dream of getting your ex back!

Website design By BotEap.comIf your ex gets into a relationship shortly after the two of you broke up, it’s most likely a rebound. And rebounds don’t usually last. They help ease the pain of the breakup and allow your ex to transition into the next phase of life. A bounce usually lasts a few weeks or months, but there are some exceptions to this rule. But very few.

Website design By BotEap.comIn case you have taken the ‘let’s be friends’ route with your ex or are trying to go down that route, know that you are destroying any chance of getting your ex back. He/she still needs you to be around as it is comforting and reassuring. So you provide the security and your new partner provides the excitement! And that’s not exactly what you had in mind, is it?

Website design By BotEap.comPeople often wonder if it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time. Although most resist the idea because it goes against their romantic notions or moral fiber, the truth is that one can love two people at the same time. Ask any psychologist and they will corroborate this fact. You see, each partner has something else to offer and the person involved with two partners has different needs that are being met by different partners. This is a classic rebound situation.

Website design By BotEap.comThe difference is that your ex is probably attached to you and ‘loves you’, but not in the way that you would like them to be. But when it comes to the new relationship, everything is fresh and exciting! They are trying to get to know each other, dating and experiencing exciting things after what probably seems like a long break with you. Your ex/rival’s new partner presents a challenge as they test and test you as a security device! Doesn’t sound very good, does it? Your ex basically has his cake and eats it too! By offering emotional support, you are actually helping the new relationship! Whether you realize it or not, to some extent it’s working because of you!

Website design By BotEap.comYou see, what happens is that you are making things easier for both your ex and his new partner. Your emotional support allows your rival to be free and have fun! If you really want your ex back, you need to withdraw this emotional support. Walk away! Disappear from this triangular equation. Let your new partner rise up and be the emotional anchor they’ve always been. Let him worry about your ex’s moods, needs, and emotional baggage… And this is when your ex might start missing you. After all, who knows it better than you? Who understands all her needs? You do.

Website design By BotEap.comAs you can see, your presence there is probably ruining any chance of getting your ex back. You are just making it easier for him/her to get over you with each passing day. How can he/she miss you when you are still there? Do not stay. Give him the opportunity to miss you and realize your importance.