Step-by-step parenting is easy

Website design By BotEap.comAdoptive parenthood is an issue that many people have serious trouble dealing with. Every father has the dream of having a happy family and raising his children in the best environment where there is peace, joy and love in the family. But sometimes it doesn’t always happen that way. The problem starts when neither parent seems to agree with the other’s idea, and before you know it, they’re drifting apart and calling it quits. Most of the time, children see these disagreements between their parents as already very traumatic for them. So adjusting to someone who isn’t their biological father can be difficult, not to mention the fact that they weren’t really comfortable with their own biological father in the first place. When the parents separate and marry another couple, that is when adoptive parenthood begins.

Website design By BotEap.comIf you are a stepparent and you are confused and don’t know what to do to make your stepchildren love you, here are some tips that can turn your seeming stepparent nightmare into a beautiful morning.

Website design By BotEap.comTips for stepparents

Website design By BotEap.comBeing a stepfather or stepmother is not an easy task; I can say that because I have been a victim. I was a little boy when my mom left my dad. The reason she left was because my older sister got pregnant and my dad said that she couldn’t let her stay with him any longer and that she needed to move out and stay with my grandmother. This idea was too crazy for my mom to agree to, but after a series of conversations she finally agreed to move. The day my sister was going to leave, my mom said that she herself would take her to my grandmother. She took her to my grandmother with a previous agreement, but when she arrived and stayed for about two weeks, she decided on her own that she would not return to my father anymore. That decision was already traumatic for me and my siblings. A year later my dad married other women for a reason we had never seen before.

Website design By BotEap.comAt that time all I did was fight and complain about everything she did to my dad, she wasn’t friendly either. She yells at me and makes different attempts to hit me that I didn’t like. She may not be able to go into all the details of the story. But the whole idea behind this story is that her behavior was already wrong with me, so I fought her with everything she had. She was able to last 5 years after which she had to leave because my dad started having problems with her too.

Website design By BotEap.comAs a stepparent, you need to understand that you may like the mother or father of the child you are about to leave with at first, but your attitude and actions towards them can change everything. Try as much as possible not to take things too personal because they are just trying to protect your home, which is normal for everyone.

Website design By BotEap.comBeing a stepparent would be easier for you if you start to love your stepchildren no matter what they do to you. “Life is an echo, it returns what you give”, the action corresponding to love is to love. With time and a consistent display of love, your stepchild(ren) will learn to love and respect you.

Website design By BotEap.comYour stepchildren have a high chance of making your marriage work or not work. So take your time, watch them, be patient, respect their privacy and most of all love them. If you can do these things, having a happy marriage shouldn’t be a nightmare.