The Three Chairs Exercise to Broaden Your Perspective

Website design By BotEap.comNow, if you have any sort of difficulty with a certain person, then this exercise can help you get a sense of that other person’s perspective or point of view.

Website design By BotEap.comSo first get your personal or spiritual notebook (or journal), and then write down your thoughts about the problem or situation. It doesn’t have to be a “conflict”, just like when tragedy happens to both of you, then you can broaden your perspective by using this practice to see what perspective you can have on the other person’s thoughts, feelings and beliefs, to name a few like personality aspects.

Website design By BotEap.comNow, you can set up three chairs. Two of the chairs would be facing each other, and the other chair is something like the observer’s chair (so make it desirable for the “observer”). Or if you choose to do so, you can use your imagination to imagine the scenes in this scenario.

Website design By BotEap.comNow when you sit in the first chair, begin to imagine that the other person is in front of you, sitting in the chair directly across from you. They are facing each other and looking at each other. So ask yourself: how do I feel? And what do I mean? And what do I want to happen? Of course, after that you need to get your notebook to jot down your personal ideas.

Website design By BotEap.comAnd then, move to the chair directly opposite your first chair. So now, imagine yourself sitting in the first chair and imagine that you are the other person. So practice your empathy: imagine and pretend to be the other person. Try to see from their perspective (or point of view). As the other person, what are your feelings? What do you want? What do you want? What are you thinking? What is your perspective on the situation or problem? What do you feel (as the other person)? Now after that take your notebook and jot down your ideas.

Website design By BotEap.comLastly, move to the last chair. You are someone who is outside the situation, an observer, and also a wise observer. From this perspective, ask yourself: what do I see? What do I want for the two people sitting in the other chairs? What important things do they need to remember? After asking yourself these questions thoroughly and with deep thought, write down new discoveries and even old ideas that are important in your notebook or journal.