Transfer of orgasm techniques to sex

Website design By BotEap.comThe orgasm techniques women learned from masturbation (which include both clitoral stimulation and the use of sexual fantasies) are not always easy to apply to sex with a partner. My own experience was that the contrast between sex with a partner and solo masturbation was so extreme that it didn’t even occur to me to try to combine the two experiences.

Website design By BotEap.comMen don’t like to use condoms because they reduce the stimulation of the penis. Imagine then the position of a woman during intercourse! Intercourse without additional clitoral stimulation is a bit like using a rubber boot as a condom!

Website design By BotEap.com“Most women conclude at some point in their lives that the female body is poorly designed.” (p19 Bluffer’s Guide for Women 1998)

Website design By BotEap.comMen’s sexual arousal is much more obvious and easy to achieve: touch them anywhere, wear something provocative, or nothing at all. In the absence of my own sexual arousal, it was much easier to accept my partner’s love and facilitate his orgasm. Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm aren’t automatic, but it’s also not obvious (even to a woman) how women’s sexual arousal works with a partner. I didn’t know where to start suggesting what my partner might try to turn me on.

Website design By BotEap.comFemale masturbation can help but is not a guarantee

Website design By BotEap.comThe fact is, I had never considered masturbation to be a legitimate part of sex. Masturbation was purely a mechanism to help me fall asleep and enjoy the pleasures of orgasm. Even though I knew sexual fantasies worked when I was alone, it felt like an insult to my partner to start reading a sexy story when his body was next to mine.

Website design By BotEap.com“Women also often find it easier to fantasize when pleasuring themselves than when having sex with a partner. The immediacy of someone else’s needs actually inhibits the expression and satisfaction of their own. Some also say that They have to imagine that the person making love to them is not the person they know so well. (p65 Women’s Sexual Experience 1983)

Website design By BotEap.comWomen who say they orgasm with intercourse but don’t masturbate don’t necessarily have it all figured out; is that they have no comparison. It is even sometimes implied that female masturbation can prevent a woman from having an orgasm with her partner. This, of course, is purely based on superstition and not logic, as Shere Hite explains.

Website design By BotEap.com“Maybe if you masturbate, you can fixate on your clitoris and therefore you can’t cum during intercourse.”

Website design By BotEap.com“The fact that I’ve been masturbating since I was ten years old has made it more difficult for me to have a vaginal orgasm.”

Website design By BotEap.comThese two quotes come from women who responded to Shere Hite’s survey. She answers: “However, the truth is quite the opposite: masturbation increases your ability to reach orgasm in general, and also your ability to reach orgasm during intercourse. Why not? It’s the same stimulation … Of course, masturbation to orgasm doesn’t allow you to orgasm automatically. to orgasm during intercourse. There’s no mystical connection between the two, just the practical experience with orgasm: what it feels like and how to get it.” (p51 The Hite Reports – 1993)