Ideally, all babies should be invited by both parents. When one parent is dissatisfied with the partnership, one solution is to fill the void with a baby to love. This is never an answer and places an enormous burden on the baby who is essentially designed and born to help repair the parent’s relationship. Any child with this pattern will always seek the security of a solid foundation in her life. This could take the form of marrying someone who needs someone to love and also offers a very strong foundation. Website design By BotEap.com2. Not recognized?
About 70% of births begin as twin births. The mother unconsciously identifies with a particular fetus even if there are two tiny fetuses present. If one of the developing fetuses leaves and the mother has already joined it, the remaining fetus will go unnoticed. There are two dynamics going on here for the baby survivor; the first is that he suddenly feels alone, bereft and unrecognized due to the mother’s bonding with the other deceased twin. The second is that the surviving twin becomes intensely resentful of the departing twin for taking food that the surviving twin needed. Website design By BotEap.comWhen the child is born, he will project that resentment onto an older or younger sibling. The mother may be surprised to discover that she is not the child she was unconsciously expecting. The baby will feel the lack of recognition that she felt throughout her pregnancy; this pattern will recapitulate with a parent, sibling, or partner. If that parent, sibling, or partner dies, she simply projects herself onto another. There is always someone else taking from them and they can’t pay back (often financially). The truth is that while resources were limited in the womb, they don’t have to be in the real world. Website design By BotEap.com3. Wanted or not?
Although many people “realize they’re pregnant,” an unplanned or accidental birth is not a healthy way to conceive a child. A baby needs to be consciously planned and desired by both parents to enter the correct and nurturing environment. Although parents are delighted to learn that a baby is on the way, it does not dispel that disconnection of unsuspecting parents during those first few weeks. Children born with this pattern are often at a friend’s house, spending the night and bonding with those parents. They try not to be too demanding and do everything themselves because they think they have to. It is a survival mechanism for them. It can be children who enter the nursery before the nursery, so that the parents can work. In subsequent relationships, they are never sure of the solidity of the partnership and need constant affirmation of their value to the partner. Website design By BotEap.com4. Lost twin?
Another twin dynamic, though this is one where the two fetuses bond with each other. One of the twins is gone and the other has lost the potential “best friend”. Once born, this surviving twin bonds with a sibling, a parent, a friend at school, anyone they perceive may have the kind of close relationship they had with their lost twin. They will marry their best friend only to discover that the relationship is suffocating for the other, or if they both have the same wound, suffocating for both. You can also see that there is no link; that initial acknowledgment was just a phase because that other person also had a twin wound. There is always a double bind in a twin dynamic. There is nothing we can do to cure a double bind, but be informed and once aware of the pattern, wait for the miracle, which always appears. Website design By BotEap.com5. Delirium
The real betrayal of patterns of disillusionment and disconnection is that they are imposed through outside intervention. If a couple conceives after heavy drinking or drug use, then the “drug effect” is imprinted on the baby and is often recapitulated at birth through interventions such as caesarean sections and chemical pain control. It is in this wound that the theme of “false memories” originates. We remember in the cells of the body what may have happened in the past to our ancestors. We have inherited the pattern and it is our job in this life to heal it instead of finding someone to blame for it. Children with this pattern will grow up feeling guilty because they appear to be delusional, due to a lack of clarity in the brain. They feel confused until they can eliminate the toxins in the fourth ventricle of the brain (filled with cerebrospinal fluid) where the impact of the drug remains. They may be addicted to alcohol, drugs, or other chemicals until they discover where the pattern originated and can begin to work on healing. Craniosacral work can help release toxicity in the fourth ventricle. Forgiving those who have been blamed is the key to healing this pattern. Website design By BotEap.com6. Disconnect
Forceps and C-sections (which also have the chemical aspect) have become very common methods of delivering a baby, whether it is necessary or not. Any rough handling by someone who pulls a baby out of the womb head-on a little too roughly can cause immense damage. The tiny skull is still very fragile and both methods should only be used in a life or death emergency. The male doctors decided to make childbirth a medical procedure and initially secretly used forceps and other tools to “assist” the delivery. The resulting pain for the baby is almost impossible to bear, and the baby disconnects from the body in order to survive. So the baby continues to spend the rest of his life in “disconnection” because he can’t be grounded and centered in her body. These are the people who seem to be “on another planet” or “away from the fairies” and drift through life; and have episodes of intense anger. Nothing can work for them if they are not grounded and body centered. We are here to be body-oriented people, however, for those who have had a forceps delivery, the body is perceived as a dangerous place to be. It continues to invite abuse simply through the aura. There is also a sense of wanting to return home, not being afraid of death, possibly even having had a sense of “the divine” in that moment of disconnection. These people need a lot of body work and skull realignment to be successful in their lives. Website design By BotEap.comThis is just a brief look at what distortions are. A baby is alone in the present moment and believes that what happens at birth is “forever”, until someone informs her otherwise when she is able to reason. There are much more detailed healing procedures, but to begin with we need to identify the patterns. Website design By BotEap.comIf a parent can talk to the baby, apologize for what happened and explain the circumstances “you may not have survived if we had done this intervention…”, then the emotional trauma around the event can be released. Website design By BotEap.comIt’s never too late: You can apologize to your 40-year-olds for what happened at their birth. It could transform their lives.